You pose a threat to society the moment you decide to pursue your dreams and reach the zenith of your career.
Your place is in the kitchen. That’s where you matter most. So, it is expected of you to end up there.
Society screams NO TO GENDER DISCRIMINATION but Amanda wasn’t promoted to become the C.EO of the company even when she’s qualified for it.
Amadi has become the C.E.O because it’s only the place of women to be Vices and Deputy.
As a lady, you are not permitted to speak in a meeting cos as part of the culture, you have to seat and listen to your husbands.
Your duty — To listen and question no authority.
So with your brain stuffed with knowledge on the subject matter, you sit and don’t speak a word.
Alas !! Civilization is here.
Thank God we know better now.
But Iya Temitope is being dragged by her husband’s family for giving birth to her third child (a baby girl) through CS.
We are so confused as a society.
Man: I won’t marry a liability. I want someone that can help me out. She’s my helpmate.
Same Man: Hian! What do u even want to do with the Ph.D. if you get it now?
What do we really want?
Ambitious ladies gradually appear like thorns on the flesh of some of the male gender.
And No, this post is not an attempt to throw shades at men.
Women keep supporting women
But my aunt from my maternal side has made it a call of duty to remind me that after 25, suitors will stop coming and I will be left at the mercy of any other man I see.
Are we here to procreate and leave the surface of this planet?
Somewhat like a means to someone’s else beginning.
Childbirth sets in and that marks the end of you living for yourself.
Wow, how can a mother go to parties?
What’s she looking for?
Hahaha, it becomes an abominable act to hang out.
Marriage is now turning into a caged mentality.
You remember that at 24, your aunt took you to every party and made you greet every visitor and stranger in a bid to find your Mr. Right.
Two years down the line, everything has changed.
Single parent — Bad wife.
The stigmatization society has given single mothers is demeaning.
House agents won’t even let you rent an apartment, you can’t question the norms, you can’t defend yourself cos for everything you do, a subtle sub is thrown at you “that’s why your husband left you”.
Women in abusive relationships and marriages can’t speak up any longer.
They endure and remain in what could take their lives cos they don’t want to be seen as weak.
If your marriage fails, it’s your fault. It is the woman’s place to make things work out.
Endure and make peace with your home.
But the day she losses her life to the abuse, we still blame her even in death for trying to do what society wants.
I could go on and on and on.
Women, this one is for you.
Thank you for being strong.
For being resilient.
For daring to become.
For being ambitious and pursuing your dreams.
You’re not less than Human.
And because we have chosen to make a difference in this era, keep BREAKING THE BIAS.
Don’t give up
You are a WOman, and you are VALID.
Happy International Women’s Day 2022.
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